與兒子交談：如何遇上更好的自己

跟兒子午餐時間交談如何遇上更好的自己，交談後即時兒子寫下零碎筆記。但之後他沒有繼續整理，似乎不太完整。

google翻譯本：

為什麼喜歡自己這麼重要？

想像一個餡餅，如果你不喜歡自己，那麼餡餅就會少一塊，需要外部因素來補充。當你喜歡自己的時候，蛋糕就會完整，並且取決於外部因素，因為外部因素永遠不會完美。

當派缺少一塊時，你會感到不滿意，就會想把缺​​少的部分找回來。

你在外面得到的餡餅永遠不會與你自己的餡餅相匹配。

你必須阻止餡餅變質，如果它變質的速度快於補充的速度，那麼餡餅就會崩潰。

如何讓派保持飽滿？

這是錯誤的心態。現在的餡餅可能缺少一些部分，但無論你剩下什麼餡餅，你現在擁有的餡餅都是完整的餡餅。

喜歡未來的潛力

你看到你的餡餅將來可以變成更大的餡餅，那是否意味著你會不喜歡你現在的餡餅？

因為有了你現在擁有的餡餅，那麼只有你才能擁有你想像的未來更大的餡餅

你看別人的餡餅，更大更好，配上不同的調味料，你會喜歡他們的餡餅嗎？

是啊，這很正常，那你就可以把他們的餡餅當作一個模型，瞄準它。

因為你看到更大更好的餡餅，你會不喜歡自己的餡餅嗎？

如果你不喜歡自己的餡餅，那麼餡餅就會變小，你看到更好的餡餅，你就會瞄準餡餅而不是讓它變小。

怎樣才能吃到更好的餅呢？

了解如何添加更好的敷料

與擅長做餡餅的人交朋友

但這並沒有為你帶來更好的派嗎？

加入各種調味料

當你達到一定的輸出等級時，你意識到你的輸入與你的輸出要求不符，該怎麼辦？

更多的輸入和輸出（輸出作為更好輸入的回饋）週期

如何最大化這個效率？

如果你不斷地在你的餡餅中添加奶酪，它並不會讓餡餅變得更好，嘗試添加一些不同種類的調味料，不同種類的輸入和輸出，那麼餡餅會更快地看起來更好。

您不小心在餡餅上添加了辣椒醬，或者由於其他原因您的餡餅變辣了，現在怎麼辦？

1. 餡餅並不總是當前的大小。你越早變辣，以後在整個派中所佔的比例就越小，那麼這種辣就會成為你派中的一個特色，就像開胃菜一樣，吃起來會很過癮

英文原文：

Why is liking yourself so important?

Because imagine a pie, if you dislike yourself, a piece of the pie will be missing, and it requires external factors to replenish. When you like yourself, the pie will be complete and dependent on external factors, as external factors are never perfect. 

When a piece of the pie is missing, you will feel unsatisfactory, and will want to recover the missing parts. 

The part of pie you get outside never matches the pie of your own. 

You have to stop the pie from deteriorating, if it deteriorates faster than it replenish, then the pie will crumble. 

How to keep the pie full?

This is the wrong mindset. The pie may now be missing some parts, but no matter what pie you are left with, the pie you have now is the full pie. 

Liking future potential 

You see that you pie can grow into a larger pie in the future, does that mean you will dislike the pie you have now? 

Because of the pie you have now, then only you can have the larger pie you envision in the future

You see others pie, it’s bigger and better, decorated with different dressings, will you like their pie?

Yeah, that’s normal, then you can treat their pie as a model, and aim for it. 

Because you see the bigger and better pie, will you dislike your own pie?

If you dislike your own pie, then the pie will grow smaller, you see the better pie, you will aim for the pie and not make it smaller.

How to have the better pie?

Learn how to add better dressings

Befriend people who are good at making pie

But that doesn’t give you a better pie?

Add variety of dressings

When you reach a certain level of output, you realise your input doesn't match what you require for your output, what to do?

More input and output (output as feedback for better input) cycles

How to maximise this efficiency? 

If you keep adding cheese for example to your pie, it doesn't make the pie a lot better, try adding some different kinds of dressings, different kinds of input and output, then the pie will appear better faster. 

You accidentally added chili sauce on your pie, or for some other factors your pie became spicy, now what?

1. the pie is not always at the current size. the earlier you it becomes spicy, the smaller proportion of the whole pie it will be in the future, then this spiciness will become a feature in your pie, like an appetiser, and it would be something enjoyable